Good morning, please take time to watch this short video and be inspired.
“Your mistake, it’s a valuable tool for growth and for life. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. It’s better than to do nothing and learn nothing and not evolve. Your mistake is your greatest opportunity” – Salma Hayek
The ability to take responsibility on our own actions will always lead to a learning experience. We made mistakes but that doesn’t mean we need to stop.
Because of my previous comments about “The 13 Reasons Why”. I was asked what is really my thoughts about Hannah Baker because it seems like I’m totally against her.
I honestly like her. I find her beautiful, attractive, kind, nice and a woman with full potentials. I don’t hate her as character, in fact I like how she responded when she was bullied. She did not fight back, she was just quiet, she ask a lot of questions and she write down every thoughts she has and that was during the early episodes.
As I go deeper, I had an understanding about the value of communication, appreciation, friendship, peer-pressure and bullying.
Communication in terms of conversation with your parents, friends and other people around. When we miss the importance of communication with the people we love, we have the tendency to be dependent on our own decision alone without any option or other insight about any situation that we are facing. We are vulnerable to commit more mistakes and to have a self-pity party.
Appreciation in every situation. Appreciate the people around you, what they say more important than other people’s opinion. Appreciate the people who try to stay with you no matter what is your situation. Failure to appreciate life and its surrounding give us hopelessness. Appreciate only what is necessary, observed and love beyond.
Friendship that nourish, builds up and binded with love. They say in able to have one, you need to be one. In this part what I observe is we always take friends for granted. We think the friendship is just as shallow as your “Hot chocolate friends” who kept absorbing all your negativity. They are more than that, unless you become one you will never understand the importance of having a friend and its value.
Peer-Pressure in every way. In every situation we always feel pressure whenever we think that its beyond our capacity. As a teenager we get excited in extreme activities even trying illegal is part of a tee-norm-pressure. Yet we have to remember that everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial. Nobody has the best respond on how to handle peer-pressure but what we can do is to choose out battles in life. Wise choices will not only lead us to success but also build our character to be an inspiration to other people who are experiencing the same fear or situation.
Bullying in any form is offensive. I came to a realization that whatever my reason or what I been though in life bullying someone always left a tremendous scars in their life. My inner insecurities should not transform into any offensive words that harm other people. I or we may not realized as early as now but whatever we say to them linger’s in their minds. In her case she had a hard time handling her emotion when it comes to bullying, in fact she even commit suicide. I can’t speak from her behalf because I believe nobody in this word could understand what she’d been though.
The only thing that I don’t like about her is.. She validate her value to other people. Your second chances in life should not depend on how people react on your situation. We are always bounded by our choices. In her case she choose to die.
And I believe she’s no different to other people who bullied her because if she does, she won’t create a tape that will have the same domino effect. Again she made her choice.
One last thing, from someone like me who wants to commit suicide before, committing suicide is not about other people, it’s more about you, personally.
A single statement does not define who you are as a woman or as a mother. You are more than “na-ano lang” statement.
You are strong, maybe a single parent yet you are whom you want to be. The world might seems tricky and difficult to handle but that’s what makes you beautiful from inside and out.
They will never find someone like you because nobody wants to be the role of two in one body. You are intelligent and smart and most specially a loving-sacrificial mother. You are a brave soul whom mostly admire by everyone.
They don’t know your story and you are not entitled to explain it to anybody. You are whom God created you to be.
Cheer up! And never forget your always part of the hood, whether your single parent, mother, single teenager or a little girl. #WomanHOOD.
Intentions: In prayer and fasting our “intentions” must be clear, the intention to humble ourselves before the Lord and admitting life without him is meaningless. But for some like me (this was before), fasting is part of my obligation as Christian, and some think that this was an advantage for selfish acts because of the benefits of fasting.
During the service, the pastor made us clear that, prayer and fasting with the intention to seek God lead to deeper, passionate and secure relationship with him. Isn’t it exciting?
Prayer and fasting are one of the important tool to seek God and deep our relationship with God, through fasting God also reveal to us deep thoughts and wisdom we need in our daily lives.
Lost in digit: In prayer and fasting, we always make time, we might think we lost time, but what is lost time compare to the presence of God is not a waste of time, Pastor told us, PAF is making time, lessen the activities and seek God and not in your “spare” time. It’s not about the digits, it’s about the time you accomplish to experience God.
Satisfaction: As the body is satisfied with food, so do our soul, pastor told us that when we seek God and his presence we make sure that we are satisfied spiritually, for God’s words are the food of the soul.
Reminder: FASTING without PRAYER is NOTHING
TOTAL TRUST IN GOD: When we PAF we are totally dependent to God, to trust him, temptation is part of our daily lives but as long as we depend on him, he will give us the strength to resist any temptation.
Expectant: Always to look forward in meeting God during PAF, be expectant of his super natural works in the lives of the people around you and yours.
Lastly do not forget to CHOOSE to be HAPPY and ENJOY the prayer and fasting
Old Sibling Struggles lol! #OLD is not in our dictionary as eldest haha #10 is definitely us. Found myself reading some article about first born kids, find it quite interesting.
First born kids are somewhat the trial and error of a new parent: Honestly first born don’t mind it; we definitely understand that parents are imperfect person.
First born are tend to be controlling: The responsibility of being the eldest is not easy, you may say that we are “controlling freak” and “very authoritative and rule oriented”. All I can say is being the eldest take a lot of self-esteem to establish authority over your sibs, and a big heart to understand the tantrums you had. First born mind-set is not selfish which most of the sibs think. There intensions are not short tern discipline but rather a long term discipline that can be pass in generations.
The high expectation to the eldest: This is one of the reason why eldest are tend to be achievers yet insecure, responsible yet people pleaser and lastly smart yet approval seeker. Every eldest in the family has this growing insecurity in taking the lead when parents are not around, most often they were the ones who take care of everything. As a result in their personal life, they were the one to work hard and help the family.
Hurt: Most of the eldest were hurt when disrespectful come on their way through their sibs, we eldest always have the mind of “why did they not understand how to respect”, “I’m the eldest I demand to be respected” and it is true, eldest tend to feel authority violated when sibs don’t respect them as they are.
Fear of new things: I really think that trying new things and bound to go with the trend is fine with the eldest, we might be traditional and family oriented but we are always found of new things, we are not too old to follow new trend.
Always the good example and always right: I believe right in a way where the intensions relay, good example is really the hardest part of being the eldest because we tend to be a “perfectionist” in every way, but the sibs should also need to be understand that even if we try hard to be a good example, failure comes in our way, they should need to distinguish the things that needed to acquire from our experiences and eliminate the ones that are not beneficial.
Eldest are too distant and mature: All I can say is that eldest are not too far for your reach, eldest tend to be the ruler yet they are lovely and understanding in every situation, they are also your cheerleaders when you feel down, you can tell them your secrets and expect to keep it till they die and lastly generational gap is never been an issue for us. All you need to do is approach.
Nobody bothered to ask about their dreams and ambitions in life: I say true enough for this, nobody really bother to ask what are the dreams and plans do they have in the future, maybe because the eldest itself are too “bombarded” with the responsibly to help the family, they really don’t have time for their own life . eg: – Whenever they go out they need to be at home at specific time to look if the their sibs did their homework nor eat their dinner and also take care of the house. I remember my friend in one of our conversation about new grads, he told me that “the reason why graduate did not excel because of the mind-set and burden they have since they were kids, the mind-set to graduate and provide for the family is the highest priority that’s why they don’t mind whether they did not practice the course they take during collage”. True enough, but the truth is balance is what we, eldest need to be open to our parents on what do we want in life. I believe that they will support us every decision we made in life.
Eldest are the one who receive the least of “a thank you note from sibs”: True enough, but eldest don’t mind, because they were bounded by loved. Whenever they see their sibs happy, they were also happy or seeing them satisfied by their cooking (sister know this haha agree?)
Giving: Giving everything and less of themselves is never been an issue to an eldest. Something that sibs should be grateful for.
Everything that’s written above is true base on the insight of an eldest. But here’s another truth:
“Everything written above is true, but eldest don’t mind having the responsibility to help the family, also eldest may feel a little bit less appreciated but the truth is they don’t mind because they knew every smile from a family member is a great reward for them, and lastly eldest don’t mind everything that written above because they were motivated by loved and the reward of being the eldest in the family is priceless, one of the most fulfilling task that God gave us and we eldest never regret being one”
So appreciate them!
Thoughts coming during midnights, sorry haha nocturnal lang ang peg ko 😛 Blog starts 5:30am and end at 6:30am got me 1hour lol, drain brain cells 😛
It took me a lot of courage to do this letter i don’t usually share this thing, this will be my first and last letter to you 🙂 I hope others will understand the reason why I’m posting this. It’s not bad at all, to get your heart broken; right person will come through God’s way.
I really don’t care if you’re still in denial or what; I know for a short period of time we both know what is the word “had” back then. I honestly love the things I made for the first time with you, you really made my world turn upside down, you made me laugh, smile, angry, sing, dance and cringe, you made me care more and less of myself, you made me realized that guys are not the same and it’s a choice to be who they want them to be, you made me see things beyond and you made me think that life isn’t bad at all, you also made me love and feel loved.
You might not realize it but I was this kind of girl who doesn’t usually let anybody else mess up with my world, I take authority over my life and never let anyone in, but I let you. I really did hate you for leaving me hanging on air and end up hating myself for not having the courage to ask why, through years a whirlwind emotion start to take over my life. I been bitter instead of better, I turn into something that I don’t want to be, I choose to rebel over a thing that I’m hoping for to return.
And at the end, I understand that I’m only hoping for something that isn’t coming, your words really drives me crazy holding on till the end, but I have to move on, moving on is never been easy, it took me years to finally say that “It’s really not coming, and it’s already “over” for both of us”. because i keep cuddling the emotion and holding on to the memories, I don’t wanna play blaming games with you. What I know is that, through the pain of falling in love for the first time it draws me closer to God, you love is a disguise of God’s love that I’m longing for.
So I say thank you for everything that I experienced with you. I never regret that one day I fell in love and got hurt, that one day I feel bitter and yet never imagine that i can still forgive, His love made me forgive. And it’s a great feeling; I realized I did myself a big favor for not holding garage over someone else. I really learned a lot through my journey of healing and forgiveness, and I’m able to share it to others.
I want you to know that you don’t need to feel guilty for hurting me either i, we both young back then, we made decisions through our emotions, and I already forgiven you. You’re one of the best thing that happen to me, so again thank you, I pray that the Lord will bless you exceedingly above and beyond because you’re a good, kind-hearted and a gentle person.
– Goodbye FL 🙂
Americans can’t seem to get enough of horror movies. Every October, in time for Halloween, Hollywood releases a creepy new crop of films about masked serial killers, flesh-eating zombies, crazed vampires and demon-possessed children who crawl out of television sets to attack us.
This year’s horror fare includes Annabelle (about a red-haired doll possessed by an evil spirit), Devil’s Due (about a demonic pregnancy resulting from a voodoo ritual),Ouija (about teenagers who conjure ghosts by playing a board game) and Horns, (about a murder suspect who begins growing horns and taking on other devilish characteristics).
No thanks. The world is scary enough—I don’t need a horror movie soundtrack to go with it.
Many horror movies are quite religious (last year’s The Conjuring was about a Christian couple who did exorcisms), but Hollywood rarely gets it right when it comes to the devil, demons and the spiritual realm. The result is that many people today have wrong ideas about Satan—and Christians often subscribe to these kooky concepts because we haven’t studied God’s Word carefully. Here are six of the most common myths about the devil:
Myth No. 1: The devil is everywhere. God is omnipresent, but the devil doesn’t have that kind of power or influence. Jesus said He saw Satan fall from heaven like lightening (Luke 10:18)—referring to the moment when our enemy was cast out of the highest heaven. Satan posts his demons in various regions, but the devil is not watching you 24 hours a day. And if you are in Christ, you are hidden in Him (see Col. 3:3) and the devil cannot detect you on his radar.
Myth No. 2: The devil has horns. Hollywood has perpetrated the idea that Satan has horns, a red cape and a pitchfork, but this is based on medieval folklore, not the Bible. In fact, the Bible says the devil is a master of clever disguises, and that he prefers to appear as “an angel of light” (see 2 Cor. 11:14). Without spiritual discernment, most people don’t even recognize that the devil is working because he is so cunning and attractive. The devil often shows up in religious meetings, and he even deceives Christians. He also loves to work through charlatans who steal money and live in immorality but know how to quote Scripture.
Myth No. 3: The devil is afraid of crosses, holy water and religious icons. In the typical Hollywood vampire film, Count Dracula is repelled by a crucifix and demons scream in torment when a priest utters a Latin phrase. Don’t be fooled. Satan is not afraid of religious people. Satan is quite comfortable hanging around religious buildings as long as the people inside are not preaching the true gospel. That’s why Paul the apostle warned us that in the last days people who at one time followed God would fall away from the faith, “paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons” (1 Tim. 4:1). Some of the most demonic heresies were hatched in church buildings when Christians turned away from the truth to follow the devil, the father of lies.
Myth No. 4: The devil is to blame for all the evil in the world. A lot of Christians have the idea that the devil caused them to sin. “The devil made me do it!” No, the devil was probably nowhere near. The Book of James says we must own the responsibility of our sin. “Each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust” (James 1:14). Don’t blame the devil for what you did. Take responsibility and repent.
Myth No. 5: The devil is all-powerful. We Christians ascribe to Satan way more power than he actually has. The Bible says in Colossians that when Jesus died on the cross, He disarmed satanic powers and made a public spectacle of them (see Col. 2:15). I love the way The Message translates this verse: “[Jesus] stripped all the spiritual tyrants in the universe of their sham authority at the Cross and marched them naked through the streets.” Satan’s authority has been taken from him, and all he can do now is lie, steal, kill and destroy—much like a renegade terrorist army—until the church finishes the job of preaching the gospel to the world. And Satan knows his end is near.
Myth No. 6: The devil lives in hell. Popular artwork often shows the devil running his diabolical operation from a headquarters in the midst of the flames of hell. But that is not a biblical concept. Ephesians 2:2 describes Satan as “the prince of the power of the air” because he runs his show from a remote heavenly location. The good news is that he won’t be there for long. Jesus said hell has been prepared for the devil and his angels (see Matt. 25:41), and Rev. 20:10 says after the final judgment, God will throw Satan into the lake of fire and brimstone where he will be “tormented day and night forever and ever.” That is the horror movie the devil fears most.
If you are a believer in Christ, you have no reason to fear the devil. We should not be ignorant of Satan’s schemes, and you should develop discernment to know where he is working, but you do not have to be afraid of him. If you are strong in faith, aggressive in prayer and filled with the Holy Spirit, you are a threat to Satan’s kingdom. The apostle Paul’s words in Romans 16:20 remind us of our victory: “The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet.”
J. Lee Grady is the former editor of Charisma. You can follow him on Twitter at leegrady. You can learn more about his ministry, The Mordecai Project, atthemordecaiproje