Internet awareness 101

Keep in mind that everytime we access the internet, all of the information we post and share is public. Privacy settings will limit access but not at all times.

Here are some of my personal thoughts:
1. You have to be aware with the fact that all of your private information was probably already shared with the world.
2. Do not post everything in social media.
3. If you have devices or social media accounts which contain important information, save it through your flash drives and disconnect from the internet. This will help keep your files safe from potential harmful access.
4. Educate yourself and your kids to be responsible users.
5. Stay away from harmful websites such as forums, deepweb, porn sites etc. (I bet you know why) True story, I’ve seen 12 year old kids accessing these sites where all unecessary data were shared (sex trafficking, kidnapping, drug deals and other illegal activities is accessible through these websites).

To sum it up, think before you click.

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Lesson from Narcos season one.

After watching Narcos season one, I can’t help but asked questions like “Why are they so into Pablo Escobar”, “Why people in Columbia love Escobar”, “Why they felt honored to work with Escobar knowing his reputation” and “What made them stay”.

No, they’re not afraid. I used to think that it’s because of the money, but I was wrong. Truth is, they are in love with the concept of a “family”. Escobar built his empire by deceiving his colleagues to think that they’re belong to the “family” even if it mean violence, vengeance and betrayal.

Narcos is an example of a distorted generation, community and nation. You see, kids these days mistaken gangs as family, coming together, or “being part of something” means family.

And because of the confusion about family and relationships that’s been carried throughout generations, most of us misunderstood the true meaning of family. It’s not as simple as being together, “You belong” or “I gotcha back bro”. It’s more than that, it’s a combination of love, forgiveness, truths, patience, peace etc. it produces good fruits.

And by saying “good fruits” means it influences you to be a better person, it pushes you to go beyond borders that makes you grow as a person, it gives you the courage to speak the truth, stand with integrity and keep moving forward in life. I’m not saying that it has to be perfect but at least you know in your heart that these people has a good intentions in your life.

So next time someone approaches you and ask you to be part of something make sure you think twice. Check the fruits!

PS. I’m still watching Narcos, ganda shaaa mamsh! Pa check na din ng mga grammar, I’m open for corrections✌️😂

Unexpected Goodbye – Open Letter #2

Yes number two. In my 24 years of existence I only fell in love twice. One was 10 years ago and other one was with you. It feel so surreal having you near and losing you at the same time.

We started as friends in the most inconvenient way. We were close enough to tell secrets and stories we want to buried in ground. Laughter that reaches our tears and the assurance of having each other’s back. It feel so right having you near, comforting enough to trust any uncertenties as long as you are with me.

But things have change. I honestly feel betrayed and deeply wounded by things you made me do. I’ve been so selfless just for your own happiness even if it means giving up mine. Yes, I understand I’m not enough and I’m not what you need that whatever I do I will not be the girl whom you choose to be with.

I was angry, I feel so pathetic and stupid for letting you ruin the walls that I built many years ago. It was painful and traumatic experienced but at the same time I did not regret any of it. It was a good fight although chances are ranging from 0 over 10 still, I did what I did. I fight for you, I fight for what I love but I lose.

I understand that sometimes by losing in a battle you will find a way to win the war. I won myself back, the confidence that I lost, the smiles that hasn’t seen for years and the assurance that I am mostly love by the people I loved the most, that their love is more than enough for me to move on and go chasing my dreams till it fulfills.

So Thank you, without any hatred in my heart I can sincerely say that I forgive myself and I also forgive you. We made bad choices in life, we grow apart and we mature that way we want. Thank you for all the whirlwind experienced, through you I learned from my mistakes, through you I was able to do thing beyond of my capacity and through you I was able to see things as in a different perspective.

My hope and my prayers was for you to live your life according to His will. May you find happiness and joy in everthing that you do, fullfill in every dreams and love that conquer uncertainties.

My sweet love, good bye.

Hate To Break It To You But You Are The Reason Your Life Sucks So Much – By Becca Martin

If you think your life sucks, it probably does. If you think the world is out to get you, it probably is. If you think you deserve more, you probably do.

The only thing in the world holding you back from achieving greatness is in fact you.

If you think the world is out to get you it’s because you have a shit attitude towards life – you’re looking at everything the wrong way. You’re using the negatives to fuel you instead of the positives. You’re letting the negatives control your mind and in turn you’re allowing them control of your life. You’re letting the bad things win.

You will never amount to any form of greatness if you spend your life working some boring desk job that just drains you of your energy because you’re too lazy to get out and search for something more fulfilling – that is no one’s fault but your own.

You will never travel the world and see Paris if you keep making excuses for why you can’t go. Just buy the plane ticket, pack a bag and go. Let the world shape you and open your eyes. Let it challenge you and frustrate the hell out of you. Struggle with language barriers and get lost. Surrender the control you possess in everyday life and just go.

You will never lose weight if you don’t change your eating habits. You will never improve your health if you don’t eat more vegetables and exercise. You will never get smarter or broaden your horizons if you’re unwilling to learn from others and read.

You will never be happy if you’re constantly looking at the negatives. You will never reach happiness in your life if you’re constantly surrounding yourself by people and things that drain you.

You are the reason you are unhappy, you are the reason you’re stuck in a rut and your relationships are poor and you’re constantly criticizing others and looking for more. That’s all on you.

There’s no way to sugar coat it. You are your own worst enemy; you are the only one who is standing in the way of your goals and your success.

Life doesn’t owe you or anyone else anything, so don’t expect it to. Don’t expect a million dollars to show up at your door, don’t expect to wake up with a rocking body, don’t expect to get your dream job if you don’t ever put work into it.

If you want something you have to work hard for it. Not a half-assed hard either, I mean you need to work your ass off. You need to make sacrifices and push through even when things get messy and complicated. You need to keep going when everything in you is telling you to give up because that’s the only way you’ll ever amount to anything great.

If you think your life sucks it probably does, it’s just like the quote, “he who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right.”

Don’t stand in the way of your own life, don’t give up when things get hard because quitting will never get you anywhere. Instead work harder and work smarter.

Believe in yourself when no one else does so you can look back and say, “I told you so.”
No one will believe you can do it until you do, so you have to want your own dreams. Others can want your dreams for you but you’re the only one who can make them happen and you’re the only one who can succeed or fail in reaching them.

Stop doing things that don’t fulfill you, stop blaming others for your problems and stop thinking life owes you something because it doesn’t. If you want your life to get better then start living like it. Start doing something positive in the right direction and don’t stop until you get there, then keep going.

Burn the fats of sins.

In Leviticus chapter 15 to 17 the Lord provide an instruction to Aaron and the Israelites on how will they be astonished from their sins. The first instruction that was mention in the bible was

15:31 – You must keep the Israelite SEPARATE from the things that make the UNCLEAN

SEPARATE mean to set apart from itself, unconnected, distinct, things that made you fall in to sins and actions that leads you to sin and to have unhealthy life spiritually, physically and emotionally.

UNCLEAN means dirty, impure, foul and morally wrong. Things that you identified as “Fats” something that unhealthy and will not benefit us in the future.

These are the lesson I take from reading the book of Leviticus

1. Sins separate us from the Lord because He is pure and just.

2.  I realized in the old testament there are things that you need to do before you approach the throne, rituals and sacrifices to be right with the Lord.

3. As I keep on reading I realized that I need to identify the “fats” the things that made me fall in to sin or the things that leads me to unhealthy life style which covers not only the physical but also mentally, physically, emotionally and most specially spiritually.

4. Make an action plan after identifying the things that made me stumble and fall. Pray about it, surrender and ask for the Lord’s guidance because in reality I can’t do it alone. Only God can burn the fats of our sins.

5. It is by repentance that made us right with the Lord. Repentance mean that we understand that we are wrong, we made things that sabotage the original creation of the Lord which are the things that made us worst. Repentance also is believing that the Lord forgave us from our sins and be able to walk confidently with our knees on the ground.  Repentance made us humble. It’s our way to honor the Lord and not only by astonishing our sins it’s also a declaration of our love towards him.

6. I thank Jesus for He is the reasons why I was able to approach the throne confidently, In him there is forgiveness and through Him I am free.

7. He simply reminds me to do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.-Romans 12:2

8. I am deeply love, totally forgiven and confidently beautiful with a heart.

Bystander Revolution: Salma Hayek | Own Your Mistakes

Good morning, please take time to watch this short video and be inspired.

“Your mistake, it’s a valuable tool for growth and for life. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. It’s better than to do nothing and learn nothing and not evolve. Your mistake is your greatest opportunity” – Salma Hayek

The ability to take responsibility on our own actions will always lead to a learning experience. We made mistakes but that doesn’t mean we need to stop.

What I learned in “The 13 Reasons Why”

Because of my previous comments about “The 13 Reasons Why”. I  was asked what is really my thoughts about Hannah Baker because it seems like I’m totally against her.

I honestly like her. I find her beautiful, attractive, kind, nice and a  woman with full potentials. I don’t hate her as character, in fact I like how she responded when she was bullied. She did not fight back, she was just quiet, she ask a lot of questions and she write down every thoughts she has and that was during the early episodes.

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As I go deeper, I had an understanding about the value of communication, appreciation, friendship, peer-pressure and bullying.

Communication in terms of conversation with  your parents, friends and other people around. When we miss the importance of communication with the people we love, we have the tendency to be dependent on our own decision alone without any option or other insight about any situation that we are facing. We are vulnerable to commit more mistakes and to have a self-pity party.

Appreciation in every situation. Appreciate the people around you, what they say  more important than other people’s opinion. Appreciate the people who try to stay with you no matter what is your situation. Failure to appreciate life and its surrounding give us hopelessness. Appreciate only what is necessary, observed and love beyond.

Friendship that nourish, builds up and binded with love. They say in able to have one, you need to be one. In this part what I observe is we always take friends for granted. We think the friendship is just as shallow as your “Hot chocolate friends” who kept absorbing all your negativity. They are more than that, unless you become one you will never understand the importance of having a friend and its value.

Peer-Pressure in every way. In every situation we always feel pressure whenever we think that its beyond our capacity. As a teenager we get excited in extreme activities even trying illegal is part of a tee-norm-pressure. Yet we have to remember that everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial. Nobody has the best respond on how to handle peer-pressure but what we can do is to choose out battles in life. Wise choices will not only lead us to success but also build our character to be an inspiration to other people who are experiencing the same fear or situation.

Bullying in any form is offensive. I came to a realization that whatever my reason or what I been though in life bullying someone always left a tremendous scars in their life. My inner insecurities should not transform into any offensive words that harm other people. I or we may not realized as early as now but whatever we say to them linger’s in their minds. In her case she had a hard time handling her emotion when it comes to bullying, in fact she even commit suicide. I can’t speak from her behalf because I believe nobody in this word could understand what she’d been though.

The only thing that I don’t like about her is.. She validate her value to other people. Your second chances in life should not depend on how people react on your situation. We are always bounded by our choices. In her case she choose to die.

And I believe she’s no different to other people who bullied her because if she does, she won’t create a tape that will have the same domino effect. Again she made her choice.

One last thing, from someone like me who wants to commit suicide before, committing suicide is not about other people, it’s more about you, personally.